core: change BoundBy= dependency handling to be processed by a deferred work queue

core: change BoundBy= dependency handling to be processed by a deferred work queue

So far StopWhenUnneeded= handling and UpheldBy= handling was already
processed by a queue that is dispatched in a deferred mode of operation
instead of instantly. This changes BoundBy= handling to be processed the
same way.

This should ensure that all *event*-to-job propagation is done directly
from unit_notify(), while all *state*-to-job propagation is done from a
deferred work queue, quite systematically. The work queue is submitted
to by unit_notify() too.

Key really is the difference between event and state: some jobs shall be
queued one-time on events (think: OnFailure= + OnSuccess= and similar),
others shall be queued continuously when a specific state is in effect
(think: UpheldBy=).  The latter cases are usually effect of the
combination of states of a few units (e.g. StopWhenUnneeded= checks
wether any of the Wants=/Requires=/… deps are still up before acting),
and hence it makes sense to trigger them to be run after an individual
unit's state changed, but process them on a queue that runs whenever
there's nothing else to do that ensures the decision on them is only
taken after all jobs/queued IO events are dispatched, and things
settled, so that it makes sense to come to a combined conclusion. If
we'd dispatch this work immediately inside of unit_notify() we'd always
act instantly, even though another event from another unit that is
already queued might make the work unnecessary or invalid.

This is mostly a commit to make things philosophically clean. It does
not add features, but it should make corner cases more robust.