homed: disable event sources before unreffing them

homed: disable event sources before unreffing them

C.f. 9793530228.

We'd crash when trying to access an already-deallocated object:

Thread no. 1 (7 frames)
 #2 log_assert_failed_realm at ../src/basic/log.c:844
 #3 event_inotify_data_drop at ../src/libsystemd/sd-event/sd-event.c:3035
 #4 source_dispatch at ../src/libsystemd/sd-event/sd-event.c:3250
 #5 sd_event_dispatch at ../src/libsystemd/sd-event/sd-event.c:3631
 #6 sd_event_run at ../src/libsystemd/sd-event/sd-event.c:3689
 #7 sd_event_loop at ../src/libsystemd/sd-event/sd-event.c:3711
 #8 run at ../src/home/homed.c:47

The source in question is an inotify source, and the messages are:

systemd-homed[1340]: /home/ moved or renamed, recreating watch and rescanning.
systemd-homed[1340]: Assertion '*_head == _item' failed at src/libsystemd/sd-event/sd-event.c:3035, function event_inotify_data_drop(). Aborting.

on_home_inotify() got called, then manager_watch_home(), which unrefs the
existing inotify_event_source. I assume that the source gets dispatched again
because it was still in the pending queue.

I can't reproduce the issue (timing?), but this should
fix #17824, https://bugzilla.redhat.com/show_bug.cgi?id=1899264.