Fix up interactions between --assemble and --incremental

Fix up interactions between --assemble and --incremental

If --incremental has partly assembled an array and
--assemble is asked to assemble it, the just finds remaining
devices and makes a new array.  Not good.

So:
1/ modify locking policy so that assemble can be sure that
  no --incremental is running once it locks the map file
2/ Assemble() checks the map file for a duplicate and adds to
   that array instead of creating a new one.

Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.de>