Rearrange the check of providers/fips.so dependencies

Rearrange the check of providers/fips.so dependencies

The mechanism had special cases to guess when something was generated
from a .in file.  It's better, though, to use the knowledge in
configdata.pm, especially when the generated file is in a different
location than its source.

Cleanups are added, and we change the use of sed to a use of perl
when cleaning up paths with 'something/../' in them, since perl has
more powerful tools for this sort of thing.

Reviewed-by: Tomas Mraz <tomas@openssl.org>
(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/15514)