core: split system/user job timeouts and make them configurable

core: split system/user job timeouts and make them configurable

Config options are -Ddefault-timeout-sec= and -Ddefault-user-timeout-sec=.
Existing -Dupdate-helper-user-timeout= is renamed to -Dupdate-helper-user-timeout-sec=
for consistency. All three options take an integer value in seconds. The
renaming and type-change of the option is a small compat break, but it's just
at compile time and result in a clear error message. I also doubt that anyone was
actually using the option.

This commit separates the user manager timeouts, but keeps them unchanged at 90 s.
The timeout for the user manager is set to 4/3*user-timeout, which means that it
is still 120 s.

Fedora wants to experiment with lower timeouts, but doing this via a patch would
be annoying and more work than necessary. Let's make this easy to configure.