Bug 4088: memory leak in external_acl_type helper with cache=0 or ttl=0

Bug 4088: memory leak in external_acl_type helper with cache=0 or ttl=0

ExternalACLEntry / external_acl_entry objects have been abusing the
CBDATA API for reference counting and since 3.4 this has resulted in
hidden memory leaks as object accounting shows all locks released but
the memory is not freed by any 'owner'.

* convert to using RefCount<> API.

* move ExternalACLEntry pre-define to acl/forward.h

* add ExternalACLEntryPointer in acl/forward.h

* convert LookupDone() method to using explicit typed pointer

* convert from CBDATA_CLASS to MEMPROXY_CLASS memory management.

* convert almost all raw ExternalACLEntry* to Pointer
 - remaining usage is in the cache hash pointers. Use an explicit 'cachd'
  lock/unlock until this hash is updated to std:: structure types.