MEDIUM: buffers: relax the buffer lock a little bit

MEDIUM: buffers: relax the buffer lock a little bit

In lock profiles it's visible that there is a huge contention on the
buffer lock. The reason is that when offer_buffers() is called, it
systematically takes the lock before verifying if there is any
waiter. However doing so doesn't protect against races since a
waiter can happen just after we release the lock as well. Similarly
in h2 we take the lock every time an h2c is going to be released,
even without checking that the h2c belongs to a wait list. These
two have now been addressed by verifying non-emptiness of the list
prior to taking the lock.