device: move Queue{In,Out}boundElement Mutex to container type

device: move Queue{In,Out}boundElement Mutex to container type

Queue{In,Out}boundElement locking can contribute to significant
overhead via sync.Mutex.lockSlow() in some environments. These types
are passed throughout the device package as elements in a slice, so
move the per-element Mutex to a container around the slice.

Reviewed-by: Maisem Ali <maisem@tailscale.com>
Signed-off-by: Jordan Whited <jordan@tailscale.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason A. Donenfeld <Jason@zx2c4.com>