Deprecate engine-wise ss cursors; repair mariadbconnector

Deprecate engine-wise ss cursors; repair mariadbconnector

The server_side_cursors engine-wide feature relies upon
regexp parsing of statements a well as general guessing as
to when the feature should be used.   This is not within the
2.0 way of doing things and should be removed.

Additionally, mariadbconnector defaults to unbuffered cursors;
add new cursor hooks so that mariadbconnector can specify
buffered or unbuffered cursors without too much difficulty.
This will also correctly default mariadbconnector to buffered
cursors which should repair the segfaults we've been getting.

Try to restore the assert_raises that was removed in
5b6dfc0c38bf1f01da4b8 to see if mariadbconnector segfaults
are resolved.

Change-Id: I77f1c972c742e40694972f578140bb0cac8c39eb