tcp: allow again tcp_disconnect() when threads are waiting

tcp: allow again tcp_disconnect() when threads are waiting

As reported by Tom, .NET and applications build on top of it rely
on connect(AF_UNSPEC) to async cancel pending I/O operations on TCP
socket.

The blamed commit below caused a regression, as such cancellation
can now fail.

As suggested by Eric, this change addresses the problem explicitly
causing blocking I/O operation to terminate immediately (with an error)
when a concurrent disconnect() is executed.

Instead of tracking the number of threads blocked on a given socket,
track the number of disconnect() issued on such socket. If such counter
changes after a blocking operation releasing and re-acquiring the socket
lock, error out the current operation.

Fixes: 4faeee0cf8a5 ("tcp: deny tcp_disconnect() when threads are waiting")
Reported-by: Tom Deseyn <tdeseyn@redhat.com>
Closes: https://bugzilla.redhat.com/show_bug.cgi?id=1886305
Suggested-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/f3b95e47e3dbed840960548aebaa8d954372db41.1697008693.git.pabeni@redhat.com
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>