winbindd: add struct winbindd_domain_ref infrastructure

winbindd: add struct winbindd_domain_ref infrastructure

In the next commits it will be possible that
struct winbindd_domain instances become stale
because trusted domains were reloaded.

That means aync state structure should not use
pointers to 'struct winbindd_domain' as they
can become stale!

Instead they should use 'struct winbindd_domain_ref domain'
in the async state and use winbindd_domain_ref_set/get()
to manage the 'struct winbindd_domain' pointer.

Signed-off-by: Stefan Metzmacher <metze@samba.org>
Reviewed-by: Ralph Boehme <slow@samba.org>