- enhance ClauseAdapter / ColumnAdapter to have new behaviors with labels.

- enhance ClauseAdapter / ColumnAdapter to have new behaviors with labels.
The "anonymize label" logic is now generalized to ClauseAdapter, and takes
place when the anonymize_labels flag is sent, taking effect for all
.columns lookups as well as within traverse() calls against the label
directly.
- traverse() will also memoize what it gets in columns, so that
calling upon traverse() / .columns against the same Label will
produce the same anonymized label.  This is so that AliasedClass
produces the same anonymized label when it is accessed per-column
(e.g. SomeAlias.some_column) as well as when it is applied to a Query,
and within column loader strategies (e.g. query(SomeAlias)); the
former uses traverse() while the latter uses .columns
- AliasedClass now calls onto ColumnAdapter
- Query also makes sure to use that same ColumnAdapter from the AliasedClass
in all cases
- update the logic from 0.9 in #1068 to make use of the same
_label_resolve_dict we use for #2992, simplifying how that works
and adding support for new scenarios that were pretty broken
(see #3148, #3188)