stasis/control: Fix possible deadlock with swap channel
If an error occurs during a bridge impart it's possible that
the "bridge_after" callback might try to run before
control_swap_channel_in_bridge has been signalled to continue.
Since control_swap_channel_in_bridge is holding the control lock
and the callback needs it, a deadlock will occur.
* control_swap_channel_in_bridge now only holds the control
lock while it's actually modifying the control structure and
releases it while the bridge impart is running.
* bridge_after_cb is now tolerant of impart failures.