Add ``dataclass_metadata`` parameter to orm cols

Add ``dataclass_metadata`` parameter to orm cols

Added ``dataclass_metadata`` argument to a all column functions
used in the ORM that accept dataclasses parameters.
It's passed to the underlying dataclass ``metadata`` attribute
of the dataclass field.
Pull request courtesy Sigmund Lahn.

Fixes: #10674
Closes: #12619
Pull-request: https://github.com/sqlalchemy/sqlalchemy/pull/12619
Pull-request-sha: 9ea6a95b2bc6816e5b69d6d559783a6009877838

Change-Id: I4551c24b85cebee4064df6ab752d0700f0f191f1