- Made a small adjustment to the mechanics of lazy loading,

- Made a small adjustment to the mechanics of lazy loading,
such that it has less chance of interfering with a joinload() in the
very rare circumstance that an object points to itself; in this
scenario, the object refers to itself while loading its attributes
which can cause a mixup between loaders.   The use case of
"object points to itself" is not fully supported, but the fix also
removes some overhead so for now is part of testing.
fixes #3145