kernel-netlink: Support parallel Netlink queries

kernel-netlink: Support parallel Netlink queries

Instead of locking the socket exclusively to wait for replies, use watcher
to wait for and read in responses asynchronously. This allows multiple parallel
Netlink queries, which can significantly improve performance if the kernel
Netlink layer has longer latencies and supports parallel queries.

For vanilla Linux, parallel queries don't make much sense, as it usually returns
EBUSY for the relevant dump requests. This requires a retry, and in the end
makes queries more expensive under high load.

Instead of checking the Netlink message sequence number to detect multi-part
messages, this code now relies on the NLM_F_MULTI flag to detect them. This
has previously been avoided (by 1d51abb7). It is unclear if the flag did not
work correctly on very old Linux kernels, or if the flag was not used
appropriately by strongSwan. The flag seems to work just fine back to 2.6.18,
which is a kernel still in use by RedHat/CentOS 5.