refs: retry acquiring reference locks for 100ms

refs: retry acquiring reference locks for 100ms

The philosophy of reference locking has been, "if another process is
changing a reference, then whatever I'm trying to do to it will
probably fail anyway because my old-SHA-1 value is probably no longer
current". But this argument falls down if the other process has locked
the reference to do something that doesn't actually change the value
of the reference, such as `pack-refs` or `reflog expire`. There
actually *is* a decent chance that a planned reference update will
still be able to go through after the other process has released the
lock.

So when trying to lock an individual reference (e.g., when creating
"refs/heads/master.lock"), if it is already locked, then retry the
lock acquisition for approximately 100 ms before giving up. This
should eliminate some unnecessary lock conflicts without wasting a lot
of time.

Add a configuration setting, `core.filesRefLockTimeout`, to allow this
setting to be tweaked.

Note: the function `get_files_ref_lock_timeout_ms()` cannot be private
to the files backend because it is also used by `write_pseudoref()`
and `delete_pseudoref()`, which are defined in `refs.c` so that they
can be used by other reference backends.

Signed-off-by: Michael Haggerty <mhagger@alum.mit.edu>
Signed-off-by: Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>