remote.c: add command line option parser for "--force-with-lease"

remote.c: add command line option parser for "--force-with-lease"

Update "git push" and "git send-pack" to parse this commnd line
option.

The intended sematics is:

 * "--force-with-lease" alone, without specifying the details, will
   protect _all_ remote refs that are going to be updated by
   requiring their current value to be the same as some reasonable
   default, unless otherwise specified;

 * "--force-with-lease=refname", without specifying the expected
   value, will protect that refname, if it is going to be updated,
   by requiring its current value to be the same as some reasonable
   default.

 * "--force-with-lease=refname:value" will protect that refname, if
   it is going to be updated, by requiring its current value to be
   the same as the specified value; and

 * "--no-force-with-lease" will cancel all the previous --force-with-lease on the
   command line.

For now, "some reasonable default" is tentatively defined as "the
value of the remote-tracking branch we have for the ref of the
remote being updated", and it is an error if we do not have such a
remote-tracking branch.  But this is known to be fragile, its use is
not yet recommended, and hopefully we will find more reasonable
default as we gain experience with this feature.  The manual marks
the feature as experimental unless the expected value is specified
explicitly for this reason.

Because the command line options are parsed _before_ we know which
remote we are pushing to, there needs further processing to the
parsed data after we instantiate the transport object to:

 * expand "refname" given by the user to a full refname to be
   matched with the list of "struct ref" used in match_push_refs()
   and set_ref_status_for_push(); and

 * learning the actual local ref that is the remote-tracking branch
   for the specified remote ref.

Further, some processing need to be deferred until we find the set
of remote refs and match_push_refs() returns in order to find the
ones that need to be checked after explicit ones have been processed
for "--force-with-lease" (no specific details).

These post-processing will be the topic of the next patch.

This option was originally called "cas" (for "compare and swap"),
the name which nobody liked because it was too technical.  The
second attempt called it "lockref" (because it is conceptually like
pushing after taking a lock) but the word "lock" was hated because
it implied that it may reject push by others, which is not the way
this option works.  This round calls it "force-with-lease".  You
assume you took the lease on the ref when you fetched to decide what
the rebased history should be, and you can push back only if the
lease has not been broken.

Signed-off-by: Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>