sub-process: refactor handshake to common function

sub-process: refactor handshake to common function

Refactor, into a common function, the version and capability negotiation
done when invoking a long-running process as a clean or smudge filter.
This will be useful for other Git code that needs to interact similarly
with a long-running process.

As you can see in the change to t0021, this commit changes the error
message reported when the long-running process does not introduce itself
with the expected "server"-terminated line. Originally, the error
message reports that the filter "does not support filter protocol
version 2", differentiating between the old single-file filter protocol
and the new multi-file filter protocol - I have updated it to something
more generic and useful.

Signed-off-by: Jonathan Tan <jonathantanmy@google.com>
Signed-off-by: Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>