resolved: take particular care when detaching DnsServer from its default stream

resolved: take particular care when detaching DnsServer from its default stream

DnsStream and DnsServer have a symbiotic relationship: one DnsStream is
the current "default" stream of the server (and thus reffed by it), but
each stream also refs the server it is connected to. This cyclic
dependency can result in weird situations: when one is
destroyed/unlinked/stopped it needs to unregister itself from the other,
but doing this will trigger unregistration of the other. Hence, let's
make sure we unregister the stream from the server before destroying it,
to break this cycle.

Most likely fixes: #10725