cgroup: Rework unit_realize_cgroup_now to explicitly be breadth-first

cgroup: Rework unit_realize_cgroup_now to explicitly be breadth-first

systemd currently doesn't really expend much effort in disabling
controllers. unit_realize_cgroup_now *may* be able to disable a
controller in the basic case when using cgroup v2, but generally won't
manage as downstream dependents may still use it.

This code doesn't add any logic to fix that, but it starts the process
of moving to have a breadth-first version of unit_realize_cgroup_now for
enabling, and a depth-first version of unit_realize_cgroup_now for
disabling.