Fix crash in error report of invalid tuple lock

Fix crash in error report of invalid tuple lock

My tweak of these error messages in commit c359a1b082 contained the
thinko that a query would always have rowMarks set for a query
containing a locking clause.  Not so: when declaring a cursor, for
instance, rowMarks isn't set at the point we're checking, so we'd be
dereferencing a NULL pointer.

The fix is to pass the lock strength to the function raising the error,
instead of trying to reverse-engineer it.  The result not only is more
robust, but it also seems cleaner overall.

Per report from Robert Haas.