bpo-34521: Fix tests in test_multiprocessing_spawn to use correctly CMSG_SPACE (GH...

bpo-34521: Fix tests in test_multiprocessing_spawn to use correctly CMSG_SPACE (GH-9613) (GH-9619)

After some failures in AMD64 FreeBSD CURRENT Debug 3.x buildbots
regarding tests in test_multiprocessing_spawn and after examining
similar failures in test_socket, some errors in the calculation of
ancillary data buffers were found in multiprocessing.reduction.

CMSG_LEN() can often be used as the buffer size for recvmsg() to
receive a single item of ancillary data, but RFC 3542 requires portable
applications to use CMSG_SPACE() and thus include space for padding,
even when the item will be the last in the buffer.

The failures we experience are due to the usage of CMSG_LEN() instead of
CMSG_SPACE().
(cherry picked from commit 077061a7b24917aaf31057885c69919c5a553c88)

Co-authored-by: Pablo Galindo <Pablogsal@gmail.com>