bcachefs: Reduce/kill BKEY_PADDED use

bcachefs: Reduce/kill BKEY_PADDED use

With various newer key types - stripe keys, inline data extents - the
old approach of calculating the maximum size of the value is becoming
more and more error prone. Better to switch to bkey_on_stack, which can
dynamically allocate if necessary to handle any size bkey.

In particular we also want to get rid of BKEY_EXTENT_VAL_U64s_MAX.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>