bpo-44649: Fix dataclasses(slots=True) with a field with a default, but init=False...

bpo-44649: Fix dataclasses(slots=True) with a field with a default, but init=False (GH-29692)

Special handling is needed, because for non-slots dataclasses the instance attributes are not set: reading from a field just references the class's attribute of the same name, which contains the default value. But this doesn't work for classes using __slots__: they don't read the class's attribute. So in that case (and that case only), initialize the instance attribute. Handle this for both normal defaults, and for fields using default_factory.
(cherry picked from commit d3062f672c92855b7e9e962ad4bf1a67abd4589b)

Co-authored-by: Eric V. Smith <ericvsmith@users.noreply.github.com>