integrate connection.terminate() for supporting dialects

integrate connection.terminate() for supporting dialects

Integrated support for asyncpg's ``terminate()`` method call for cases
where the connection pool is recycling a possibly timed-out connection,
where a connection is being garbage collected that wasn't gracefully
closed, as well as when the connection has been invalidated. This allows
asyncpg to abandon the connection without waiting for a response that may
incur long timeouts.

Fixes: #8419
Change-Id: Ia575af779d5733b483a72dff3690b8bbbad2bb05
(cherry picked from commit 3b7e621aa728d9b01dbac4150e13ea2ef6af35a3)