gh-114271: Fix race in `Thread.join()` (#114839)

gh-114271: Fix race in `Thread.join()` (#114839)

There is a race between when `Thread._tstate_lock` is released[^1] in `Thread._wait_for_tstate_lock()`
and when `Thread._stop()` asserts[^2] that it is unlocked. Consider the following execution
involving threads A, B, and C:

1. A starts.
2. B joins A, blocking on its `_tstate_lock`.
3. C joins A, blocking on its `_tstate_lock`.
4. A finishes and releases its `_tstate_lock`.
5. B acquires A's `_tstate_lock` in `_wait_for_tstate_lock()`, releases it, but is swapped
   out before calling `_stop()`.
6. C is scheduled, acquires A's `_tstate_lock` in `_wait_for_tstate_lock()` but is swapped
   out before releasing it.
7. B is scheduled, calls `_stop()`, which asserts that A's `_tstate_lock` is not held.
   However, C holds it, so the assertion fails.

The race can be reproduced[^3] by inserting sleeps at the appropriate points in
the threading code. To do so, run the `repro_join_race.py` from the linked repo.

There are two main parts to this PR:

1. `_tstate_lock` is replaced with an event that is attached to `PyThreadState`.
   The event is set by the runtime prior to the thread being cleared (in the same
   place that `_tstate_lock` was released). `Thread.join()` blocks waiting for the
   event to be set.
2. `_PyInterpreterState_WaitForThreads()` provides the ability to wait for all
   non-daemon threads to exit. To do so, an `is_daemon` predicate was added to
   `PyThreadState`. This field is set each time a thread is created. `threading._shutdown()`
   now calls into `_PyInterpreterState_WaitForThreads()` instead of waiting on
   `_tstate_lock`s.

[^1]: https://github.com/python/cpython/blob/441affc9e7f419ef0b68f734505fa2f79fe653c7/Lib/threading.py#L1201
[^2]: https://github.com/python/cpython/blob/441affc9e7f419ef0b68f734505fa2f79fe653c7/Lib/threading.py#L1115
[^3]: https://github.com/mpage/cpython/commit/81946532792f938cd6f6ab4c4ff92a4edf61314f

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