Always check that discarded state is the expected one

Always check that discarded state is the expected one

Fixed race condition in ORM identity map which would cause objects
to be inappropriately removed during a load operation, causing
duplicate object identities to occur, particularly under joined eager
loading which involves deduplication of objects.  The issue is specific
to garbage collection of weak references and is observed only under the
Pypy interpreter.

Change-Id: I9f6ae3fe5b078f26146af82b15d16f3a549a9032
Fixes: #4068