ensure secondary cols not excluded from adaption

ensure secondary cols not excluded from adaption

Fixed regression caused by :ticket:`9779` where using the "secondary" table
in a relationship ``and_()`` expression would fail to be aliased to match
how the "secondary" table normally renders within a
:meth:`_sql.Select.join` expression, leading to an invalid query.

Fixes: #11010
Change-Id: I535ce8b14f6a779c26b6b50b796ce64e57d7ee3d
(cherry picked from commit 8844cb0b4148ff52c0377edf01d6e88f3bbe1ab0)