gh-123358: Use `_PyStackRef` in `LOAD_DEREF` (gh-130064)

gh-123358: Use `_PyStackRef` in `LOAD_DEREF` (gh-130064)

Concurrent accesses from multiple threads to the same `cell` object did not
scale well in the free-threaded build. Use `_PyStackRef` and optimistically
avoid locking to improve scaling.

With the locks around cell reads gone, some of the free threading tests were
prone to starvation: the readers were able to run in a tight loop and the
writer threads weren't scheduled frequently enough to make timely progress.
Adjust the tests to avoid this.

Co-authored-by: Donghee Na <donghee.na@python.org>