add a handshake memory failure test

add a handshake memory failure test

We would like to be able to test our memory failure paths, but forcing
malloc to return NULL at certain points in time.

This test does that, by running a sepcific workload n+1 time.  In this
case the workload is a simple ssl handshake.

We run 1 test which sets our malloc wrapper into record mode, in which
it just acts as a pass through to the system malloc call and records the
number of times it was called.

Then we run a second test, which does the same handshake N times, where
N is the number of times malloc was called in the previous test.  For
each iteration in i=0..N we fail the ith malloc operation.

We don't check for functional failures in the second test (as we expect
failures), we just want to make sure that (a) we don't crash and (b)
asan doesn't report any errors.

Currently, we get _lots_ of asan failures, but we can use this test to
log issues for that and fix those up.

Reviewed-by: Matt Caswell <matt@openssl.org>
Reviewed-by: Paul Dale <ppzgs1@gmail.com>
(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/28078)