netfilter: ipset: let destroy callbacks adjust ext mem size

netfilter: ipset: let destroy callbacks adjust ext mem size

For bitmap this change makes no difference, because destructors are
called synchronously.

List type however calls them via call_rcu() so accounting decrement can
happen after list_set_flush() set ext_size to 0.

'set->elements = 0' can be removed for the same reason in the list type
case, it calls 'set->elements--' for each element.

Fixes: 9e41f26a505c ("netfilter: ipset: Count non-static extension memory for userspace")
Suggested-by: Jozsef Kadlecsik <kadlec@netfilter.org>
Signed-off-by: Florian Westphal <fw@strlen.de>
Acked-by: Jozsef Kadlecsik <kadlec@netfilter.org>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>