Add _extend_on deduplicating set for metadata.reflect()

Add _extend_on deduplicating set for metadata.reflect()

The "extend_existing" option of :class:`.Table` reflection would
cause indexes and constraints to be doubled up in the case that the parameter
were used with :meth:`.MetaData.reflect` (as the automap extension does)
due to tables being reflected both within the foreign key path as well
as directly.  A new de-duplicating set is passed through within the
:meth:`.MetaData.reflect` sequence to prevent double reflection in this
way.

Change-Id: Ibf6650c1e76a44ccbe15765fd79df2fa53d6bac7
Fixes: #3861