MEDIUM: server/ssl: place an rwlock in the per-thread ssl server session

MEDIUM: server/ssl: place an rwlock in the per-thread ssl server session

The goal will be to permit a thread to update its session while having
it shared with other threads. For now we only place the lock and arrange
the code around it so that this is quite light. For now only the owner
thread uses this lock so there is no contention.

Note that there is a subtlety in the openssl API regarding
i2s_SSL_SESSION() in that it fills the area pointed to by its argument
with a dump of the session and returns a size that's equal to the
previously allocated one. As such, it does modify the shared area even
if that's not obvious at first glance.