Fix race condition in psql \e's detection of file modification.

Fix race condition in psql \e's detection of file modification.

psql's editing commands decide whether the user has edited the file
by checking for change of modification timestamp.  This is probably
fine for a pre-existing file, but with a temporary file that is
created within the command, it's possible for a fast typist to
save-and-exit in less than the one-second granularity of stat(2)
timestamps.  On Windows FAT filesystems the granularity is even
worse, 2 seconds, making the race a bit easier to hit.

To fix, try to set the temp file's mod time to be two seconds ago.
It's unlikely this would fail, but then again the race condition
itself is unlikely, so just ignore any error.

Also, we might as well check the file size as well as its mod time.

While this is a difficult bug to hit, it still seems worth
back-patching, to ensure that users' edits aren't lost.

Laurenz Albe, per gripe from Jacob Champion; based on fix suggestions
from Jacob and myself

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/0ba3f2a658bac6546d9934ab6ba63a805d46a49b.camel@cybertec.at