Warn for object replaced in identity map during flush

Warn for object replaced in identity map during flush

A warning is emitted for a condition in which the :class:`.Session` may
implicitly swap an object out of the identity map for another one with the
same primary key, detaching the old one, which can be an observed result of
load operations which occur within the :meth:`.SessionEvents.after_flush`
hook.  The warning is intended to notify the user that some special
condition has caused this to happen and that the previous object may not be
in the expected state.

Fixes: #4890
Change-Id: Ide11c6b9f21ca67ff5a96266c521d0c56fd6af8d
(cherry picked from commit 4aa43ecbd78e5a7dd3d983ca46a377af4e01877e)