- work on fixing some race-condition failures:

- work on fixing some race-condition failures:
1. make sure pool._invalidate() sets the timestamp up before
invalidating the target connection.  we can otherwise show how the
conn.invalidate() + pool._invalidate() can lead to an extra connection
being made.
2. to help with that, soften up the check on connection.invalidate()
when connection is already closed. a warning is fine here
3. add a mutex to test_max_overflow() when we connect, because the way
we're using mock depends on an iterator, that needs to be synchronized