backport tim_one's checkin of

backport tim_one's checkin of
    revision 2.5 of pymem.h
    revision 2.44 of pyport.h

Whether platform malloc(0) returns NULL has nothing to do with whether
platform realloc(p, 0) returns NULL, so MALLOC_ZERO_RETURNS_NULL can
be correctly undefined yet realloc(p, 0) can return NULL anyway.

Prevent realloc(p, 0) doing free(p) and returning NULL via a different
hack.  Would probably be better to get rid of MALLOC_ZERO_RETURNS_NULL
entirely.

Bugfix candidate.