process-util: rework wait_for_terminate_and_warn() to take a flags parameter

process-util: rework wait_for_terminate_and_warn() to take a flags parameter

This renames wait_for_terminate_and_warn() to
wait_for_terminate_and_check(), and adds a flags parameter, that
controls how much to log: there's one flag that means we log about
abnormal stuff, and another one that controls whether we log about
non-zero exit codes. Finally, there's a shortcut flag value for logging
in both cases, as that's what we usually use.

All callers are accordingly updated. At three occasions duplicate logging
is removed, i.e. where the old function was called but logged in the
caller, too.