Fix datarace when UDP/TCP connect fails and we are in nmthread

Fix datarace when UDP/TCP connect fails and we are in nmthread

When we were in nmthread, the isc__nm_async_<proto>connect() function
executes in the same thread as the isc__nm_<proto>connect() and on a
failure, it would block indefinitely because the failure branch was
setting sock->active to false before the condition around the wait had a
chance to skip the WAIT().

This also fixes the zero system test being stuck on FreeBSD 11, so we
re-enable the test in the commit.