net: use llist for sd->defer_list

net: use llist for sd->defer_list

Get rid of sd->defer_lock and adopt llist operations.

We optimize skb_attempt_defer_free() for the common case,
where the packet is queued. Otherwise sd->defer_count
is increasing, until skb_defer_free_flush() clears it.

Signed-off-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Jason Xing <kerneljasonxing@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Kuniyuki Iwashima <kuniyu@google.com>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20250928084934.3266948-3-edumazet@google.com
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>