Relax checking of supported-groups/keyshare ordering

Relax checking of supported-groups/keyshare ordering

quic interop testing showed that interop with the mvfst client was
failing, due to detecting mis ordering of supported groups and keyshare
extensions

This is strictly a mvfst problem to fix, but RFC 8446 indicates that we
MAY check the ordering but don't strictly have to.

We've opened an issue with the client to fix this, but in the interests
of client compatibility relax the ordering check so that, instead of
issuing a fatal alert, we just log a trace message indicating the
discrepancy

Fixes openssl/project#1106

Reviewed-by: Saša Nedvědický <sashan@openssl.org>
Reviewed-by: Viktor Dukhovni <viktor@openssl.org>
Reviewed-by: Tomas Mraz <tomas@openssl.org>
(Merged from https://github.com/openssl/openssl/pull/26818)