MINOR: connection: allocate dynamically hash node for backend conns

MINOR: connection: allocate dynamically hash node for backend conns

Remove ebmb_node entry from struct connection and create a dedicated
struct conn_hash_node. struct connection contains now only a pointer to
a conn_hash_node, allocated only for connections where target is of type
OBJ_TYPE_SERVER. This will reduce memory footprints for every
connections that does not need http-reuse such as frontend connections.