add set_shard_id() loader option for horizontal shard
Added new option to horizontal sharding API
:class:`_horizontal.set_shard_id` which sets the effective shard identifier
to query against, for both the primary query as well as for all secondary
loaders including relationship eager loaders as well as relationship and
column lazy loaders.
Modernize sharding examples with new-style mappings, add new asyncio example.