Fix updateAclDependencies() to not assume that ACL role dependencies can only

Fix updateAclDependencies() to not assume that ACL role dependencies can only
be added during GRANT and can only be removed during REVOKE; and fix its
callers to not lie to it about the existing set of dependencies when
instantiating a formerly-default ACL.  The previous coding accidentally failed
to malfunction so long as default ACLs contain only references to the object's
owning role, because that role is ignored by updateAclDependencies.  However
this is obviously pretty fragile, as well as being an undocumented assumption.
The new coding is a few lines longer but IMO much clearer.