Prevent parallel index build in a standalone backend.

Prevent parallel index build in a standalone backend.

This can't work if there's no postmaster, and indeed the code got an
assertion failure trying.  There should be a check on IsUnderPostmaster
gating the use of parallelism, as the planner has for ordinary
parallel queries.

Commit 40d964ec9 got this right, so follow its model of checking
IsUnderPostmaster at the same place where we check for
max_parallel_maintenance_workers == 0.  In general, new code
implementing parallel utility operations should do the same.

Report and patch by Yulin Pei, cosmetically adjusted by me.
Back-patch to v11 where this code came in.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/HK0PR01MB22747D839F77142D7E76A45DF4F50@HK0PR01MB2274.apcprd01.prod.exchangelabs.com