vfio/pci: Use RCU for error/request triggers to avoid circular locking

vfio/pci: Use RCU for error/request triggers to avoid circular locking

Thanks to a device generating an ACS violation during bus reset,
lockdep reported the following circular locking issue:

CPU0: SET_IRQS (MSI/X): holds igate, acquires memory_lock
CPU1: HOT_RESET: holds memory_lock, acquires pci_bus_sem
CPU2: AER: holds pci_bus_sem, acquires igate

This results in a potential 3-way deadlock.

Remove the pci_bus_sem->igate leg of the triangle by using RCU
to peek at the eventfd rather than locking it with igate.

Fixes: 3be3a074cf5b ("vfio-pci: Don't use device_lock around AER interrupt setup")
Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@nvidia.com>
Reviewed-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20251124223623.2770706-1-alex@shazbot.org
Signed-off-by: Alex Williamson <alex@shazbot.org>