reftable: split up write options

reftable: split up write options

When initializing the reftable stack the caller may optionally pass some
write options. These write options mix up two different concerns though:

  - Of course, they allow the caller to configure how new reftables are
    being written.

  - But they also allow the caller to configure the stack itself, like
    its hash ID and the `on_reload` callback.

This is somewhat awkward, as it doesn't easily give the caller the
flexibility to for example write multiple reftables with different
options. Furthermore, this requires us to eagerly parse relevant
configuration when initializing the reftable backend.

Refactor the code by splitting out those options that configure the
stack itself. Creating a new stack will thus only require this limited
set of options, whereas the caller is expected to pass write options to
all functions that end up writing tables.

Signed-off-by: Patrick Steinhardt <ps@pks.im>
Signed-off-by: Junio C Hamano <gitster@pobox.com>