Support state expiration for with_expression(); rename deferred_expression

Support state expiration for with_expression(); rename deferred_expression

The attributeimpl for a deferred_expression does not
support a scalar loader, add new configurability so that
the impl can have this flag turned off.   Document
that the with_expression() system currently does not
offer any deferred loading.

To eliminate confusion over "deferred", which refers to
lazy loading of column attributes, and "with_expression",
which refers to an attribute that is explicitly at
query time only, rename deferred_expression to query_expression.

Change-Id: I07c4a050ed68c79ccbde9492e9de1630b7470d74