MEDIUM: fd: support stopping FDs during starting

MEDIUM: fd: support stopping FDs during starting

There's a nasty case during boot, which is the master process. It stops
all listeners from the main thread, and as such we're seeing calls to
fd_delete() from a thread that doesn't match the FD's mask, but more
importantly from a group that doesn't match either. Fortunately this
happens in a process that doesn't see the threads creation, so the FDs
are left intact in the table and we can overwrite the tgid there.

The approach is ugly, it probably shows that we should use a dummy
value for the tgid during boot, that would be replaced once the FDs
migrate to their target, but we also need a way to make sure not to
miss them. Also that doesn't solve the possibility of closing a
listener at run time from the wrong thread group.